Where have you been??

Yes...it seems like I have dropped off the universe. Yet I'm still here.  Or at least on Instagram! Need I explain the rush, the panic, the stress that maybe is normal for you, but hard on me.  I've been very uncertain of my future and it hard...seriously.  I've been open and honest with you for a while

Lets shake me off and worry again about you....that's why I'm trying to get back into posting.  Why?  For you.... I CARE, I think of you.  Actually, lets do something.  Why don't you blog lurkers ( not that I don't care, I just don't know what the proper name for you is) come forth and comment below 3 questions.

1. What's your name?
2. What State do you live?
3. What or Who sent you to my site?

Simple eh?  Everyone can answer those three questions.  If no one told you about me, then why were you drawn to this website?  Just be honest as I've been honest. 

Now, along the line of YOU....there is two more issues, then I must go do my chores again....yes, I live on a farm with my parents and two brothers.  Yet, they'll remain anonymous for you.   That's for privacy and security reasons.

I've detoured yet AGAIN....as I was saying there's two more issues I want to address off hand....

1. I have been working (in my spare time, as I've been silent) to get a post up.  Its really from the depths of my heart.  (Actually if you would take a few moments and HEAR ME OUT AT LEAST   
....which is actually a title of another blog I posted....that will be a good kick start for understanding my next one to come).

2. I usually don't ask for money, and besides, its NOT for me.  I'm all about helping others out. And you know it right.  There is a wonderful organization run by Tim Tebow that gives special need kids a  Night To Shine !  Imagine if you were made fun of, bullied, ignored just cause you looked different, need a wheelchair, a cane, etc...all before you were 80...even before you were  50....try teens.  These kids need a special night where they feel loved and care for.   The link that I posted is to my part of the fundraiser.  I'd love to donate, but I don't have a credit card.  WHAT...a 21 with no card?!?!?!  But I'm doing the fundraising, and you can donate.  Skip celebrating that promotion trip and donate it to others who need it, don't go to the movies, send someone else to have a wonderful time, etc.  My end date is Christmas....maybe skip your Christmas celebration and give it towards other.  Its actually not till February sometime, but be willing to do a little bit of inconvenience just so others feel cared for.

Now I have to run, but you have A WONDERFUL DAY!!

Hear me out at least

( Sorry for the delay, but my work schedule has been tough lately)

Now this information may cause problems, may be a lot, or maybe just conflicting. It's time for the disclaimer.

Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor with a degree. I am merely 21. I am just one trying to find out the truth. I am passionate about getting this information out as I believe that the more people know about it, the better things may get. I want each of you to do your own homework so you see the truth. I'll be glad to pass information along to anyone who wishes for it.

Okay, lets get down to business.   Seriously vaccines and the whole pharmaceutical companies = money.    I'm not going to lie.  I am going to be a bit careful in what I say as I don't want attacks. Or people to come hunt me down.  Yet I will try to hit on some hard truths.

Like, do you know how many shot a child can have by the time they are 6 years old?  Anyone?  Try 49 doses of 14 shots.  How old is the child when they give their first shot?  Anyone?  12 hrs old.....12 hrs imagine that.  And they have to be introduced into this world by a shot.  Which is usually by a vitamin K, which.....(do your own research, I'm telling you what I have found) ....isn't all that necessary because "one size doesn't fit all" for vaccines.

Vaccines don't always work, they can cause inflammation. They cause autism, ADD, ADHD, the list goes on and on.  And these are known....let me repeat that, KNOWN.   Why isn't the word out there? Why didn't you hear about it?  Well, the reason why is Drs are in on this secret.  They want they're big paycheck from the pharmacy for putting in the shots that don't always work.  They get extra paycheck if they do it.  So they use fear and intimidation to get you to accept.  Which, they don't really ask you, they just say, "Your child has to have this shot or they will die".  Its taking away your freedom.   Yes, it is your freedom.  Your freedom to protect and defend your little one.

I loved what one person said, "ask your pediatrician if they know the ingredients in a certain shot.  They most likely will not.  You could ask your baker and they can tell you all the information on how they made a bread or a cake.  What temp they baked it at, what ingredients they used, when they put that ingredient in etc.  Ask your mechanic on a nut or a bolt in your car, and they'll tell you precisely where it goes, how tight you need to tighten it, etc.  Your pediatrician should know.  Instead they don't as they don't care".  

Very true.  How can you say true if you haven't been a parent?   Well, the biggest is back in my day (21 years ago) Dad had to fight not to allow me to have all the shots.  He didn't know half what he knows now, but he's sure glad he put up a stink then.   That was then...how much more now.  The monster keeps getting bigger and BIGGER.  And if you and I DON'T stop it.....who knows where it will go.

One final point.  The vaccine DPT.  Have you heard of it?  It causes brain damage in kids.  Mental retardness, Autism, epilepsy....etc.... that's all brain damage caused by it.

Here are some links to look at.

National Vaccine Information center   They have good information about each vaccine

Vaccines are Dangerous


Vaccines Facts and Myths

This is a movie on vaccines.  It is very helpful.  Do at least look at it.









Well, I hope this was a help and not a hindrance, but please do your own homework.

From Abby

Why I do what I....

Why do I take time to write post on this blog or update my Instagram?  Because I care.   This is what I've decided I will do to help minister to you.   I want to be your friend.  I want to be that friend that never changes, I want to be that friend that is there.   One of the hardest things I find is all this work, for very little feed back.  I do get some, one in particular.  I'm not doing it for praise, no, I'm doing it to reach out. Like a ministry.  

I've been a missionary kid all my life.  Some of you may know I'm 21, and I wonder if some doubt if I'm able to be a friend.  Yes, I can be a friend.  Why?  Well, I've grown up basically the only kid around.  Basically....I know what its like to be alone.   That's why I work hard to get something up.  I primarily update my Instagram account, which, if you haven't join its @listening.ear.4.you.  However....I get sooo....no, correction, I work hard to not get irritated at designers, and medics, and...etc. asking to join (I'm private for your info) me when very clearly it says,

Abby
You can join if:
You have a child in NICU
You have a loved one in the military
You have a child with terminal illness

Isn't that straight forward? I guess not for a lot of folks.  They just push the follow button and don't take time to look the account over.  Why did I go private? Well, I want to serve you first.  That's my primary goal.

Another thing I want to touch on leading up to my next post WHICH WILL PROBABLY STEP ON SOMEBODY'S TOES!   Trust me, if you want nothing to do with natural, or wanting to change things, skip the next post.  Although I would ask that you hear me out and then do your own research.  I won't shun you because you believe giving your kid a bag of MM's is much more healthy then broccoli (Which, you should go at least read an earlier post titled Some Good tips....) I'm not going to say you don't belong.  Yet, I do ask that you hear me out and not just assume that cause I'm 21 I have no knowledge.  I haven't raised my own kids, but I've done plenty of research, and I'm still ....let me repeat that STILL  learning something new.  I don't pretend to know it all, but I'm sharing the information that I have.

So with all that you're willing to jump into the next post.  I hope so! I would add it here but I don't want to bore the ones that aren't interested.    

All for now!
From Abby

Some good tips

  

I recently read from the Bontrager family's blog some useful tips. Now I know I'm not a mother yet, but I'm trying to learn now. Besides, a lot of the tips on getting a child to eat was how I was raised.

 This was written by Becky Bontrager the mother of the family. She and her husband Marlin are raising 10 children ranging from 26-9. 

PURPOSE: to encourage mothers-to-be and mothers of young children in cultivating good appetites in their children.
DISCLAIMER: This post is written by a mother who is in daily need of God's forgiveness and grace as she seeks to "fear God and follow His commandments". 
CONFESSION: The author actually likes oreos very much but has in the recent years mostly avoided them because of their obvious lack of nutritional content. =)

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In a world full of hatred, crime, perversion, immorality, and all sorts of ungodliness, you may wonder how you, a mother, can make a difference.  If mothers only knew what kind of difference they can make, I believe mothers would spend more time reading the Word and less time surfing the internet for some new motherhood blog.  They would use more of their time in prayer and less time on FB and texting on their phones.  Days would be spent with their children instead of pursuing a career.  If possible, they would make great sacrifices (cook from scratch, learn how to live by a budget, grow some vegetables, pray for wisdom, etc) so they could survive on one income.  Mothers would read aloud to their children instead of opening up some paperback fiction.  They would trade TV time for games with the family.  

We need to ask God to open our eyes so we can see our children as tomorrow’s forefathers instead of as a burden or distraction.  Our children are being formed into adults TODAY!  The training, teaching, nurturing, and loving begins when that new life is being formed.  

One very important aspect of raising children that is often neglected is appetite.  We should very carefully guard our children’s appetites so that they will grow to love that which is pure and good. Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

The following are two vital, yet greatly neglected, appetites that mothers should take great care to nurture and train.

1. Physical Food
If little children are fed a constant diet of mac & cheese, candy, hotdogs, etc. how can they learn to eat food that will strengthen their bodies and keep them fit for serving God?  Countless times I have heard “my child is a picky eater!".  Did you know that it is possible to train appetites?   Here are 4 simple suggestions for educating/changing your child’s eating habits:

A. Develop good eating habits for your infant
 Appetites are actually developed in the womb!! Yes, you can help your child love their vegetables by making good choices during your pregnancy. When your baby is ready for food, these good habits can be nurtured by introducing mashed vegetables before cereal and fruit.

B. Allow no snacking except for vegetables until your child has learned to cheerfully eat whatever is placed before him at meal times 
Giving your child 3 square meals a day with no snacks in between-no fruit juice, milk, apples, cheerios, popsicles, candy, etc. etc. etc. will greatly improve the chance that your child will eat what is placed before him at mealtimes.

C. Serve simple meals with little or no dessert 

A great breakfast is eggs, oranges, and muffins; lunch coud be wraps with veggies &amp, cheese/soup/bread; for dinner you could have rice and hamburger casserole, green beans, and a salad.  If your child is “STRONG-WILLED” and chooses not to eat what you fixed, just smile and tell them you will put their food in the fridge until they are hungry for it.  If you are feeling exceptionally kind, you can heat it up for them when they are ready to eat it. =) I have also served the salad first with a promise that more food would be served when the salad was eaten. (A certain toddler in our house, who shall remain unnamed, was not fond of lettuce. It was astonishing to see how well he ate a moderate helping of lettuce when it was the only food on his plate. The ending to this story is that this young man now enjoys large helpings of salad!)  A hungry toddler who has not had snacks, WILL eat even the more undesirable foods if they are truly hungry. Believe me when I tell you that we have learned these lessons through trial and error and with God's grace.

D.This is probably the MOST important-be a good example!  

Learn to enjoy your veggies, make good food (herbs & spices make food amazingly yummy!), and serve it cheerfully.

 2) Media
In this area most people would consider our family quite narrow minded indeed.  In our family we have made the decision to not allow video games (except an occasional typing program), excessive texting, young children having email accounts & phones, and most movies.  There is way too much to do in life for us to be spending excessive time on the internet or in front of a TV. I am especially concerned to see large numbers of parents entertaining children as young as 7-9 months old with videos on their phones.  This is harmful to the babies' brain in so many ways. 
It takes patience and careful training, but even infants can be taught to sit still without constant entertainment. As we have traveled across the country, we have heard heartbreaking stories of young people and parents who are addicted to their phones, video games, movies, and pornography.  Somewhere these addictions began as one video game, one harmless movie, one look at a magazine or internet site, or a simple cell phone without any guidelines. 

(If you are interested in further resources, “Captivated”, by Philip Telfer, is a an excellent documentary that looks at the detrimental effects that media can have on our minds)

I wish changing media appetites were as simple as changing food appetites but unfortunately, that is not the case. If you find yourself with these kinds of addictions, God is willing and able to give victory to those who will do what 11 Chronicles 7:14 tells us to do, "If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land."

Here are a few ideas on how to develop pure appetites for your children:

A. Pray that your children will love the Word of God
Read it to them often- daily. Teach  them to establish their own personal time in the Word (as soon as they can read) and prayer (when they begin to talk) every day.  This is taught best by your example as they see you begin every day with God. “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” -Matthew 6:33

B. Be part of a Bible-believing church where God's Word is preached without apology + reaching the lost is a priority

C. Practice hospitality 

Invite your neighbors, a family from church, a missionary or evangelist passing through your area, or family members over for a Saturday brunch, a Sunday lunch after church, or an evening meal. Teach your children how to cook and serve a balanced meal. 

D. Do ministry together
Sing at your local nursing home. Visit a widow. Take a meal to a young family or someone in need. Rake leaves for an elderly woman living alone. Volunteer at the local soup kitchen. Reach out to your neighbors. There are ministry opportunities no matter where you live!

E. Read, read, read to your children
Start by reading the Word of God aloud to your child in the womb. Continue with reading during feeding time with your infant. A toddler will enjoy snuggling on your lap for short Bible Stories with colorful pictures. (My favorite is Uncle Arthur’s Bible Stories)  Read stories that teach your children good character. Missionary stories and biographies are a favorite at our house. Why have a book that doesn't teach good values or morals?  ( (Be watching for our recommended reading list, coming soon!)

F. Play games
When our children were younger, we played Memory, Candy Land, Uncle Wiggly, and Shoots & Ladders. These games teach counting and color skills, memory skills (how many times was I beat by a 3 yr old in a game of memory?!), and the joys of winning and losing.  These days we play Dutch Blitz, Scrabble, Rook, Boggle, Settlers of Catan, and Axis & Allies.  :)

G. Make music together
Sing unto the Lord.  We recently met a family with young children (all under the age of 14, I believe) who will sometimes stay up quite late playing their instruments and singing together just because they love it!  I don’t suppose they have much time to watch movies or play video games!

H. Work

You can read more about this topic here.

If you occupy your family with all of the above, there really won’t be much time left for other distractions and unprofitable activities. 

Above all else, you must pray for your children.  Pray that they will love the Lord their God with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength.  Pray that they will seek first the Kingdom of God.  Pray that they will stay pure in mind, spirit, soul, and body.  Guard their little hearts very carefully.  Know that one opportunity to view porn or watch an ungodly movie can start an appetite that can turn into an addiction very quickly.  Teach your children to love what God loves and hate what God hates. (You can guard your internet and keep them from bad influences when they are little, but someday they will grow up and need to choose good from evil for themselves)  

Know that you can make a difference in the life of your children today by praying for them, spending time with them, and helping them cultivate good appetites, 

such as a diet of "broccoli versus oreos".  =)

"And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord, and great shall be the peace of thy children."

-Isaiah 54:13

{written by Becky} www.bontragerfamilysingers.com  

Just a few more

Well, for some strange reason, the most viewed blog was that with the music video. So are y'all big fans of music too? Well, I'll post more of my favorite videos.

Now this one is an hour long, but it's great! Well, I think I will leave you with that.  What's your favorite song so far? Comment below. My favorite is Life In The Storm, These Are The Days, Called Me Old Fashion....etc. just to name a few.

Are you a good person?

Well of course I am. I've done ___, and __. Besides I am not as bad as ___. 

Have you ever said anything like that? Just take a moment and think real hard. Did you ever do something you shouldn't have? Said something nasty? Ever coveted something?

Nope. Nothing.

Well, how's your schedule. You got time to watch this?

Okay I watched it, but I still don't get it. I'm good.

You may think you are good, but you need Jesus Christ to save you!

How do I do that?

First you need to confess your sins and accept Jesus, the Creator of the heavens and earth into your heart.

Here are some verses.

for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. God presented Christ as a sacrifice of atonement, through the shedding of his blood—to be received by faith. He did this to demonstrate his righteousness, because in his forbearance he had left the sins committed beforehand unpunished—
Romans 3:23‭-‬25 NIV

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 6:23 NIV

Where do we find salvation? In Jesus Christ who died once for all.

Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.”
Acts 4:12 NIV

I'll be glad to coach anyone who wants to know more.

Thanks for reading!
Abby

This is a favorite....pause. One thing that you need to learn is that I love music. Good music that is. I want to honor my Creator, so I am not going to listen to anything, nor will I not appreciate you a a person because you listen to ____ (fill in the blank). So back to what I was saying, this is one of the many songs I love. I love listening to this song when I am struggling. I hope that it encourages you!

Abby